Sex Addiction

Do you suffer from an out of control sexual behaviour? Or do you think someone close to you does? We offer therapy for the treatment of sex addiction and sexually compulsive behaviour.

What is Sex Addiction?

Sex addiction describes any kind of sexual behaviour that feels out of control. The behaviour itself does not define it as an addiction, but rather the dependency on it as ‘go-to’ behaviour.

For many individuals this has become a way of managing painful feelings and difficulties in their life, but always with a negative impact on themselves, on their values and on those closest to them. Most people with sex addiction will want to stop and have tried to stop or limit their behaviour – only to find it is increasing.

There are no distinct categories, but sexual addictions can come in different forms, including:

  • Compulsive use of Online Porn
  • Chat Room/Cyber Sex
  • Compulsive Masturbation
  • Anonymous Sex
  • Telephone Sex
  • Fetishes
  • Exhibitionism/ Voyeurism
  • Sadistic or Masochistic behaviour
  • Visiting Sex Workers
  • Having multiple, ongoing affairs

What to look for?

At Relate we understand that having a sexual addiction can make you feel trapped and isolated and can be devastating for those involved or connected.  It may be something that you have struggled with for many years. But how can you tell if some behaviours amount to an addiction?

Here are some questions designed to help you think about whether this may be an issue for you or someone close:

  • Do you have concerns about your sexual behaviour?
  • Has your use of internet pornography or sex workers increased?
  • Do you keep your behaviour secret from those around you?
  • Do you ever feel bad for your sexual behaviour?
  • Do you regard online ‘affairs’ or ‘friendships’ as not damaging to your main relationship even if your partner is hurt by them?
  • Have you tried to stop but failed?
  • Has your behaviour ever created problems for your family?
  • Have you used sex or pornography as a way of regulating negative emotions?
  • Do you spend hours on internet pornography sites searching for the perfect image or the perfect video?
  • Have you noticed that you need more and more stimuli or risk to get the same level of arousal?
  • Has anyone in your family currently, or in the past, struggled with an addiction?

Basically, if it’s a ‘yes’ to any of these, you may find it helpful to come and talk to us.  Our expertise in relationships means that we completely understand the damage that these behaviours can have on you, and your family and friends.

You’re not alone; Sexual addiction is an increasingly common problem.  Many people find an outlet for feelings of stress, shame, low self-esteem and anxiety through a variety of behaviours which eventually feel out of control and difficult to stop.

Individual Therapy (men and women)

One to one therapy is a therapeutic process to support you in overcoming sexual addiction. It provides an opportunity to vocalise how you are feeling while enabling a clearer understanding of emotions and underlying factors that may have led you to this point. These sessions will help you to understand your addiction, while working towards getting back in control and making the changes that are needed.

The counsellor can offer techniques, strategic interventions, and useful ways to bring about positive change, and will work with you in order to help you move forward.

For more information or to book an appointment please call Relate Milton Keynes on 01908 310010 or email appointment@relatemk.org